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Olivia Ajayi's avatar

I really love this ! Wow it actually felt like you were in my head at some points 😂

2 main points stuck out to me - the first being the example you gave of you being on the train and actively speaking up for yourself in a good way. It’s interesting how the mans first reaction was to defend himself/his rights which is genuinely human nature. But what I love is you didn’t just decide to move, but you explained further and I believe that then spoke to his actual nature and clearly he must be a nice person but initially didn’t want to feel “pushed around”

The second thing I love was the explanation at the end of you may not always find me where you left me regarding a friendship breakdown/pause. that’s a really key point because we all sometimes forget life happens! Bigger things happen when you give people time/space - no matter how much you desire to still be in someone’s life, I feel lack of communication and extreme time without intentional work during the space could end up meaning you both move on. The balance is key but prayer is keyerrr😂 always asking God to know how to navigate these things is really helpful for me

Didn’t mean to go on for this long loool🤦🏾‍♀️ but thank you for this write up Bukiie !

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Osarhieme's avatar

This was so good and timely too! Recently had a hard conversation with a friend and turns out we were both feeling the same way about each other. More communication was needed. But I loved that we both came to a resolve. As you said it’s much easier to be avoidant, but real maturity comes with being able to share our minds with our friends in love. Hard conversations are necessary for real relationships

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